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Rihanna and Chris Brown drama deals with a bigger issue

February
20

I am not one for celebrity gossip, but I have been following the never-ending Rihanna and Chris Brown story.

If some of you do not know, R &B singer Chris Brown,20, was arrested for allegedly beating up his girlfriend Singer Rihanna,21, about two weeks ago.

The story is all over the television and newspapers and I can honesty say that on my way to work I hear jokes about the situation on the radio each day.

No matter how exciting this story may be to some, it deals with a much bigger issue: Young abusive relationships.

In high school I had a number of friends whose boyfriend’s would verbally and emotionally abuse them. I remember hearing “Oh he did not hit me that hard” or “I got him angry so that is why he did it.”

Do not get me wrong, it goes both ways. There are situations in which men are abused or both parties are doing the abusing.

So are you in a abusive relationship? Here are ways to find out according a BBC relationship quiz.

1. Does your partner harm you physically in any way? (Hitting, slapping, punching, grabbing, shaking etc)

2. Do they try and control different aspects of your life? (Telling you how to dress, who to associate with, what to say)

3.Do they frequently humiliate you and make you feel unworthy?

4.Do they threaten to harm you?

5. Do they twist the truth to blame you for their actions?

6. Do they demand to know where you are at all times?

7. Do they become jealous when you want to spend time with family and friends?

If so, you may be in a abusive relationship.

We are all adults and we make our own decisions. We have the power to stay or leave situations that may be harmful to us. I am not going to tell anyone what to do with their lives.

However I will say that no one deserves to be treated that way.

Caption: Singer Rihanna was hospitalized the night before the Grammys after she was allegedly beaten up by boyfriend Singer Chris Brown.

Posted by Danielle De Souza on Friday, February 20th, 2009 at 1:38 pm
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Your privacy is safe for now

February
18

Due to a ton of complaints, Facebook has backed off on its proposal to permanently house all data on a user, even after said user deletes their Facebook account.

Mark Zuckerberg released the following statement today on the Facebook blog:

“A couple of weeks ago, we revised our terms of use hoping to clarify some parts for our users. Over the past couple of days, we received a lot of questions and comments about the changes and what they mean for people and their information. Based on this feedback, we have decided to return to our previous terms of use while we resolve the issues that people have raised.”

I am curious to see how this plays out. If your privacy is a major concern, you may want to consider deleting your current account and sign back up when the terms of service are finalized.

Posted by lvollmer on Wednesday, February 18th, 2009 at 5:35 pm
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Better watch what you upload on Facebook

February
18

If you have logged into Facebook in the past day or so, you may have seen this message on the top of your screen.

A few days ago, Facebook modified its terms of use. The new terms grant Facebook permanent rights to users’ photos, wall posts and other information even after a user closes their account.

That means any status update, photo, wall post, note etc. will be owned by Facebook .forever. That is kind of alarming.

In an effort to make the language of the terms easier to read, Facebook is in the process of modifying it’s terms of use. The bottom line is that you have to be more careful then ever if you wish to keep your Facebook account. If someone tags you in something inappropriate, then simply untag it. Watch what you upload and what you write and you should be ok.

Posted by lvollmer on Wednesday, February 18th, 2009 at 1:19 pm
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20-somethings are the most uninsured.

February
18

There are times that we all borrow things from our friends and family. Money, clothes, shoes, etc.

Well, due to lack of health care, people in their 20s are borrowing medicine from others. In an article in The New York Times, it stated that many 20-somethings are without health insurance and have resorted to borrowing medicine from others and self-diagnosing.

The article stated that people in their 20s shun health insurance because their age makes them feel invulnerable and mostly because policies are out of reach.

Young adults are the nation’s largest group of the uninsured. There were 13.2 million (29 percent) of them nationally in 2007 according to the figures from the Commonwealth Fund, a nonprofit research group in New York.

The article also pointed out that many “young invincibles” face the challenge of living in high priced cities on low paying jobs with no benefits.

Read the article.

Caption: Young adults have resorted to borrowing medicine from others due to lack of health insurance (Seth Harrison/The Journal News).

Posted by Danielle De Souza on Wednesday, February 18th, 2009 at 1:17 pm
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Unblock blocked numbers son!

February
17

Sigh, my days of prank calling co-workers with angry ethnic accents might be numbered.

There’s a new service out called TrapCall that will unmask blocked numbers on your phone. The way it works is when you get an incoming call from a blocked number, you can route the call to TrapCall’s servers that decrypt the digital signature assigned to every blocked number.

I think I just got a nerd erection.

Within seconds, you’ll know exactly who is calling you, and the person making the call to you will have no idea.

I signed up for the free version and it worked like a charm. Some of the paid versions (10-25 bucks a month) are even more gangster. You can get TrapCall to transcribe your voicemails (handy if you’re in a meeting and want to read a message someone left for you) and even record your incoming calls!

(Photo by Rory Glaeseman / The Journal News)

Posted by Aman Ali on Tuesday, February 17th, 2009 at 6:51 pm
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Deactivate…

February
16

After using Facebook for four years, I’ve decided to deactivate my account for a second time. As much as I love keeping in touch with friends from childhood and college, I can’t take anymore of the constant status updates, random friend requests and intrusions on real life. Honestly, I only use it to keep up with birthdays and to wish my friends well on their special day.

I mean, do I really need to know that you are getting your oil changed before you walk your dog? Or that you are popping champagne at Club “I’m Important.” Trust me, I believe you when you say life is good. No need to “confirm” the details. Sometimes it’s just refreshing to receive a phone call or personal email from a friend sharing info about their day, instead of finding out the details through their photo album posted online.

A recent story on The Huffington Post, “Help! I’m Addicted to Facebook,” lists some sure signs that you may have lost control. Tara Stiles says you may be addicted to Facebook, if:

1. Facebook is your home page.

2. You update your status more than twice a day.

3. You have over 500 “friends” half of whom you’ve never actually met.

4. As soon as you step away from your computer you’re on FB on your phone.

5. You are a FB stalker. You qualify as a FB stalker if you

a) click on someone’s profile more than once a day even if they haven’t messaged or tagged you in a photo.

b) have dragged and dropped more than 3 FB photos (not from your own profile)

c) actually go to a place mentioned on someone’s page in hopes of seeing them in real life…creepy!

6. You change your profile picture more than a 12-year-old girl.

7. You have checked your FB page while reading this article.

8. You clean up your “wall” so it looks like you spend less time on FB.

9. You are a member of more than 10 groups and respond to every event invitation “attending” even if you have no intention of going.

10. You change your relationship status just to mess with people

I challenge all to a FB hiatus, just once, to see the difference. And if all fails, your page will remain exactly the same when you return.

Photo: Rory Glaeseman / The Journal News

Posted by Stacy A. Anderson on Monday, February 16th, 2009 at 5:21 pm
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Review: Street Fighter 4

February
15

I dare you to play this game without peeing your pants in excitement.

I just got my hands on Street Fighter 4 this past weekend, and holy crap it rocks my world. The game totally has the old school game play of the original games in the series but they beefed up with incredibly gorgeous graphics.

Here’s the review of it that IGN posted:

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If you like fighting games, definitely go out and buy this.

Posted by Aman Ali on Sunday, February 15th, 2009 at 4:45 pm
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Man, we got some losers on Google

February
12

Hooray, it’s not just me.

Google now has this tool called Insight, where you start typing in something under search and it brings up the most popular searches based on those words.

But my little brother pointed out something awesome, try it for yourself. I took a screen grab of me typing in the phrase “why do I have” and you get this:

I can’t make this up people.

Posted by Aman Ali on Thursday, February 12th, 2009 at 11:57 am
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Couple arrested for eating iguana on Facebook

February
10

Iguanas, the other white meat.

A couple posted an album of their recent vacation to the Bahamas on Facebook, including a picture of them feasting on a rare iguana.

According to police, the pics showed them “catching an iguana, parts of an iguana on a grill, two men eating the iguana pieces, and a man and a woman cleaning what appears to be undersized conch.”

Authorities in the Bahamas somehow found out about the pics and arrested them for violating the Fisheries Regulations and the Wild Animal Protection Act.

Now that these guys got busted, perhaps I should take down this pic on my Facebook, of me trying to eat my ridiculously adorable nephew:

Come on, tell me that you don’t want to pour ketchup on him and eat him.

(Iguana photo by Ricky Flores / The Journal News)

Posted by Aman Ali on Tuesday, February 10th, 2009 at 5:52 pm
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Is money straining your relationship? Join the club, or start one

February
9

A recent New York Times article profiled a group of 20-something women forced to adjust their carefree lifestyles due to the economic turndown. The informal gathering of Dating a Banker Anonymous is a support group founded last November to help women married or dating financiers who have been laid off, or are extremely stressed out from their work environment!

I’m a firm believer in leaning on my friends when I’m in need, but complaining about not being able to take a luxury vacation or having to cancel my credit cards for shopping, as the article states, is a bit much. I’ll take a step back, as to not knock anybody else’s situation; I guess this is what they are accustomed to. I DO applaud these women for taking a positive step to fellowship with others who feel their pain. Plus getting all dolled up and to meet for Comsos at least once a week doesn’t hurt either.

Now if I could just find a support group for recent grads with school loans, a car note and long to travel the world, I’d be pretty content too.

Photo: Mark Vergari/The Journal News

Posted by Stacy A. Anderson on Monday, February 9th, 2009 at 7:00 pm
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