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Rihanna and Chris Brown drama deals with a bigger issue

February
20

I am not one for celebrity gossip, but I have been following the never-ending Rihanna and Chris Brown story.

If some of you do not know, R &B singer Chris Brown,20, was arrested for allegedly beating up his girlfriend Singer Rihanna,21, about two weeks ago.

The story is all over the television and newspapers and I can honesty say that on my way to work I hear jokes about the situation on the radio each day.

No matter how exciting this story may be to some, it deals with a much bigger issue: Young abusive relationships.

In high school I had a number of friends whose boyfriend’s would verbally and emotionally abuse them. I remember hearing “Oh he did not hit me that hard” or “I got him angry so that is why he did it.”

Do not get me wrong, it goes both ways. There are situations in which men are abused or both parties are doing the abusing.

So are you in a abusive relationship? Here are ways to find out according a BBC relationship quiz.

1. Does your partner harm you physically in any way? (Hitting, slapping, punching, grabbing, shaking etc)

2. Do they try and control different aspects of your life? (Telling you how to dress, who to associate with, what to say)

3.Do they frequently humiliate you and make you feel unworthy?

4.Do they threaten to harm you?

5. Do they twist the truth to blame you for their actions?

6. Do they demand to know where you are at all times?

7. Do they become jealous when you want to spend time with family and friends?

If so, you may be in a abusive relationship.

We are all adults and we make our own decisions. We have the power to stay or leave situations that may be harmful to us. I am not going to tell anyone what to do with their lives.

However I will say that no one deserves to be treated that way.

Caption: Singer Rihanna was hospitalized the night before the Grammys after she was allegedly beaten up by boyfriend Singer Chris Brown.

Posted by Danielle De Souza on Friday, February 20th, 2009 at 1:38 pm |
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Your privacy is safe for now

February
18

Due to a ton of complaints, Facebook has backed off on its proposal to permanently house all data on a user, even after said user deletes their Facebook account.

Mark Zuckerberg released the following statement today on the Facebook blog:

“A couple of weeks ago, we revised our terms of use hoping to clarify some parts for our users. Over the past couple of days, we received a lot of questions and comments about the changes and what they mean for people and their information. Based on this feedback, we have decided to return to our previous terms of use while we resolve the issues that people have raised.”

I am curious to see how this plays out. If your privacy is a major concern, you may want to consider deleting your current account and sign back up when the terms of service are finalized.

Posted by lvollmer on Wednesday, February 18th, 2009 at 5:35 pm |
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Better watch what you upload on Facebook

February
18

If you have logged into Facebook in the past day or so, you may have seen this message on the top of your screen.

A few days ago, Facebook modified its terms of use. The new terms grant Facebook permanent rights to users’ photos, wall posts and other information even after a user closes their account.

That means any status update, photo, wall post, note etc. will be owned by Facebook .forever. That is kind of alarming.

In an effort to make the language of the terms easier to read, Facebook is in the process of modifying it’s terms of use. The bottom line is that you have to be more careful then ever if you wish to keep your Facebook account. If someone tags you in something inappropriate, then simply untag it. Watch what you upload and what you write and you should be ok.

Posted by lvollmer on Wednesday, February 18th, 2009 at 1:19 pm |
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20-somethings are the most uninsured.

February
18

There are times that we all borrow things from our friends and family. Money, clothes, shoes, etc.

Well, due to lack of health care, people in their 20s are borrowing medicine from others. In an article in The New York Times, it stated that many 20-somethings are without health insurance and have resorted to borrowing medicine from others and self-diagnosing.

The article stated that people in their 20s shun health insurance because their age makes them feel invulnerable and mostly because policies are out of reach.

Young adults are the nation’s largest group of the uninsured. There were 13.2 million (29 percent) of them nationally in 2007 according to the figures from the Commonwealth Fund, a nonprofit research group in New York.

The article also pointed out that many “young invincibles” face the challenge of living in high priced cities on low paying jobs with no benefits.

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Caption: Young adults have resorted to borrowing medicine from others due to lack of health insurance (Seth Harrison/The Journal News).

Posted by Danielle De Souza on Wednesday, February 18th, 2009 at 1:17 pm |
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Deactivate…

February
16

After using Facebook for four years, I’ve decided to deactivate my account for a second time. As much as I love keeping in touch with friends from childhood and college, I can’t take anymore of the constant status updates, random friend requests and intrusions on real life. Honestly, I only use it to keep up with birthdays and to wish my friends well on their special day.

I mean, do I really need to know that you are getting your oil changed before you walk your dog? Or that you are popping champagne at Club “I’m Important.” Trust me, I believe you when you say life is good. No need to “confirm” the details. Sometimes it’s just refreshing to receive a phone call or personal email from a friend sharing info about their day, instead of finding out the details through their photo album posted online.

A recent story on The Huffington Post, “Help! I’m Addicted to Facebook,” lists some sure signs that you may have lost control. Tara Stiles says you may be addicted to Facebook, if:

1. Facebook is your home page.

2. You update your status more than twice a day.

3. You have over 500 “friends” half of whom you’ve never actually met.

4. As soon as you step away from your computer you’re on FB on your phone.

5. You are a FB stalker. You qualify as a FB stalker if you

a) click on someone’s profile more than once a day even if they haven’t messaged or tagged you in a photo.

b) have dragged and dropped more than 3 FB photos (not from your own profile)

c) actually go to a place mentioned on someone’s page in hopes of seeing them in real life…creepy!

6. You change your profile picture more than a 12-year-old girl.

7. You have checked your FB page while reading this article.

8. You clean up your “wall” so it looks like you spend less time on FB.

9. You are a member of more than 10 groups and respond to every event invitation “attending” even if you have no intention of going.

10. You change your relationship status just to mess with people

I challenge all to a FB hiatus, just once, to see the difference. And if all fails, your page will remain exactly the same when you return.

Photo: Rory Glaeseman / The Journal News

Posted by Stacy A. Anderson on Monday, February 16th, 2009 at 5:21 pm |
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Is money straining your relationship? Join the club, or start one

February
9

A recent New York Times article profiled a group of 20-something women forced to adjust their carefree lifestyles due to the economic turndown. The informal gathering of Dating a Banker Anonymous is a support group founded last November to help women married or dating financiers who have been laid off, or are extremely stressed out from their work environment!

I’m a firm believer in leaning on my friends when I’m in need, but complaining about not being able to take a luxury vacation or having to cancel my credit cards for shopping, as the article states, is a bit much. I’ll take a step back, as to not knock anybody else’s situation; I guess this is what they are accustomed to. I DO applaud these women for taking a positive step to fellowship with others who feel their pain. Plus getting all dolled up and to meet for Comsos at least once a week doesn’t hurt either.

Now if I could just find a support group for recent grads with school loans, a car note and long to travel the world, I’d be pretty content too.

Photo: Mark Vergari/The Journal News

Posted by Stacy A. Anderson on Monday, February 9th, 2009 at 7:00 pm |
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Universities feeling the economic crunch

February
9

As the government continues in stagnant woe, I have to ask: Who really needs assistance?

While automobile companies and banks—and let’s not forget companies using private jets and giving million dollar bonuses—continue to reap help from the government, higher institutes of education are feeling the burden too.

The Atlanta Journal-Constitution reports that Morehouse College and Clark Atlanta University in Atlanta have both cut 100 staff positions this month. Clark Atlanta has even cut all physical education classes! Isn’t PE fundamental?! With talks of a stimulus bill to aid schools across the country, its seems that education may soon be pushed to the forefront as a priority. The article says nine out of 10 students at Clark Atlanta need financial aid to attend the private school. I can’t help but think that the economy has forced some 20-somethings to leave the school of their dreams to transfer to state-funded schools.

If you are a 20-something who has reconsidered higher education, transfered to a cheaper school or even decided to start at your local community college for the time being, please contact 25 Sense.

Photo: Concordia College in Bronxville

Posted by Stacy A. Anderson on Monday, February 9th, 2009 at 2:15 pm |
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G.I. Joe movie, please don’t suck

February
2

I’ve been a nervous wreck all day.

Yesterday, as I was watching the Super Bowl on my beloved 120-inch HD projector screen, I watched the trailer for the G.I. Joe movie coming out this summer.

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G.I. Joe was one of my favorite cartoons as a kid. What on Earth is all this high-tech slow motion Matrix crap that they’re trying to infuse into the movie?

Cleavage, Marlon Wayans as Ripcord and knocking down the Eiffel Tower with moss? Seriously Hollywood, that’s all you got?

(It should be noted, that I am a strong fan of one of those items).

To be fair, I was a HUGE skeptic of the Transformers movie, which remade another baller cartoon from my childhood. And that movie was a whirling dervish of awesomeness. So I guess I’ll have to wait until summertime. Until then, I remain skeptical.

Posted by Aman Ali on Monday, February 2nd, 2009 at 6:54 pm |
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“Opie and Anthony” producer from Mamaroneck on Sirius XM this Saturday

January
23

He’s the co-host of two radio shows, a producer for the Opie and Anthony show, and the current wrestling trivia champion of XM 202/Sirius 197.

If before your 26th birthday you’d accomplished all that (in front of a potential, international, satellite audience of millions, no less), they’d probably call you “Prime Time” too.

If you saw “Prime Time” Sam Roberts on the streets of his hometown of Mamaroneck, NY, you might mistake him for an average 25-year-old kid from Westchester County. He’s a college graduate with a serious girlfriend, a day job, hoodie collection, wrestling obsession and a huge Afro.

But on Saturday night, this local boy will put on the headphones and be heard all across North America when he co-hosts the 4th installment of “Special Delivery Starring Sam and Dave,” live on The Virus XM 202/Sirius 197. Sam Roberts sits along side “East Side” David McDonald of “The Ron and Fez Show”
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Posted by lvollmer on Friday, January 23rd, 2009 at 4:17 pm |
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Hookup on cheap Manhattan parking

January
19

You’re welcome.

Taking your car into Manhattan for a night on the town by yourself to visit a Chinese massage parlor always results in the hassle of finding a good parking spot.

And if you’re like me, after driving around for miles trying to find a free spot, you sell your soul to the dark side and park in one of those garages — only to find out that you will be charged $3 fafillion zillion for an hour of parking.

But now, Central Parking, which has garages on just about every block, is running a promo where you can get 6 hours of parking for $15.

That’s a freakin steal dude. You’re lucky to find a place that charges you less than $15 for an hour (THAT’S WHAT SHE SAID!).

Anywho, click here to find a garage that you want to park at, and print out the coupon.

( Photo by Stephen Schmitt / The Journal News )

Posted by Aman Ali on Monday, January 19th, 2009 at 12:21 pm |
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