I am a 42 year old happily married with no kids. My husband and I have been together for 16 years. I’m tired of people trying or not realizing to make me feel like an alien or guilty for my choice. I’m pretty happy overall. We travel, and volunteer. I’m in a major career change right now. Some how people who have certain strict views feel they need to change me, because I don’t have kids, to make me a better person. That’s what makes me feel sick. I laugh to myself when I hear “oh your 42 you and your hubby better get crackin”. That’s a personal statement, to someone you just met,and people should use their filters before they say that. I don’t think people realize what they say. My own Dr. would say somethings like that but she was an obgyn and delivered babies for a living. She was promoting her business. I used to get annoyed with those statements. Volunteering is a way that I make myself feel full filled in helping others. There are plenty of kids out there who need mentors. How many times have you heard “my son doesn’t listen to me”. I wish some people would realize what they say first and look at other ways of doing things that are just as positive. I’m very happy with my husband and we are happy with our choice. I grew up being the oldest in my family and in my generation. I grew up being the responsible one and always baby sitting. After a live in nanny job for 3 boys, I took a long break from kids and worked on my own personal growth. I’m working towards a care giving career that I know is full filling for me. Thanks so much for this post and blog. I absolutely think we need a group of women like this to know there are more of us out there. It’s a choice and made responsibly. We are not lazy or have a lack of faith.